Is being possessive necessary?

What do we possess and what did we bring? Where are we from? Who is it that actually brought us here? Most of all why are we here? These questions come like waves when something else occupies the mind and this vanishes in a trice. Right from childhood through teenage and years that follow we are possessive about something or the other. It starts with objects and transcends boundaries to encompass many other things, including friends and relations. We start becoming possessive about our parents (at a young age, competing with our siblings), followed by friends and those whom we love. So far possessiveness has played a great role in all relationships, but has been rarely successful in strengthening the bond. In most of the occasions it has only caused rifts and torn apart good relationships. Those who justify that being possessive is a sign of love and care forget to apply the same when someone gets possessive about them. But why do we hold on to such a feeling despite all the pain it gives? It’s because, though coloured by love, care, etc, it all starts with the inherent nature of the mind, that being ‘insecurity’. It’s about the fear of losing a person’s relationship. But do we need to resort to forceful measures like constantly asking for their attention or altercating with them? Can we bind anyone by force? Isn’t true love, be it in friendship or any kind of relationship, beyond all these? Do we need to worry at all and try to pull to ourselves people who move away? Is that going to give us even the least happiness in the future? Will it let us derive even the slightest contentment of having a person for us? Not at all. We might initially feel we have won the bet. But in the long run will only repent for we would have realized its artificiality and fugacity. A relationship (all relationships including friendship) with just possessiveness and competition resisting a third person’s entry, without love for each other as the base is not likely to survive for a long time. But that which exists with unconditional love is ineradicable even when they don’t meet or talk to each other daily. So, if a person is destined to stay with us and if the love they have for us is true, there is no need to be possessive at all. Things will take shape by itself and true relations will last forever.

 *Nothing above God’s wish*

And these 4 words separately answer the first 4 questions :)